You’re Afraid of Success.
Because you’re always looking for failure.
A lesson from “When Things Fall Apart” by Pema Chödrön.
We all want to be successful. Probably why you are reading this story. You want to see if the secret to unlocking your success will be in the words below. You want to know how you could possibly be afraid of success and why hoping to be successful prevents you from being successful.
Taking some points from Pema Chödrön, “all hope is rooted in fear.” All anxiety, all dissatisfaction, all the reasons for hoping that our experience could be different, are rooted in fear. How we behave is in constant avoidance of the things we fear, the dharma we dislike (pain, criticism/blame, disgrace, loss) only to find ourselves experiencing those things because we use them as the reference points for our actions and decisions.
You hope for success because you are afraid of failure. Your reference point likely isn’t success. You know what failure feels like and you want to avoid the feeling so you hope for success.
I battled with this for a long time. Simply avoiding failure. I still do now. I remember 2011–2012 after coming off of a stint of unemployment I was working for a company where there wasn’t any chance to ascend professionally. I still took the job knowing it was a dead-end…
